How do you make up with your ex? Is it even possible? Where do you start?
These are HUGE questions in which the answers are often the difference between successfully making up with your ex or allowing the relationship to end for good.
Here I reveal the mystery of how to make up with your ex:
1. DON’T “create space”!
One of the first mistakes you can make is listening to the usual advice of “creating space” after a breakup. This often fails because when you create space you allow things to fade away. Some guys or girls will totally avoid their ex for weeks, thinking that they are creating space and then think they will be able to get back together. Unfortunately the guy or girl has usually moved on by then or their mind is focused elsewhere. While you don’t want to create space, you also don’t want to do the following:
2. DON’T swarm your ex – BE SUBTLE!
This is key. While you don’t want to create space, you also don’t want to swarm your ex.
Instead, here’s what to do: Be subtle. In the weeks following a breakup, keep yourself in the loop by dropping short handwritten notes now and then, or well thought out emails (texts can also be used, but handwritten things pack a much more powerful punch than an easily forgotten text message).
3. MEET UP as soon as possible.
This does not mean the day after the breakup, or even a few days after. This means as soon as you have dropped a few notes, saying the right things, then you want to step it up further with a meet up. Don’t get intimate during your meet up! Make it simple. A coffee, one beer, etc. If you avoid intimacy then you build up the temptation and desire for getting back together!
These are the 3 steps that many guys and girls don’t get right, or don’t do in the proper order. This formula breaks down the mystery of how to get your relationship back on track as quickly as possible.
